Keisha Cole and Missy Elliot are reminding women of a very important lesson when in a relationship. If one's boyfriend is not loving them the way they want, then "let him go". Keisha empathizes with women everywhere.

I understand why you wanna try
Make him stay home late at night
But if wanna go he'll be gone no lie
I can't explain how many times I tried
How many times I cried

She, at one point or another, had been paranoid that her boyfriend was unfaithful. Keisha imparts many jewels of wisdom to women who are feeling they are not being loved.

You need to get it if he don't wanna
Love you the right way he ain't gonna
It ain't where he's at its where he
Where he wanna be

In the above lyrics, Keisha is reinforcing the idea that a woman who wants love should not wait. The key phrase is, "It ain't where he's at its where he wanna be". In other words, a man (or woman for that matter) is going to be where they want because they want to, and one cannot force their partner to be faithful. Instead of despair and paranoia, it is important that if a lack of love exists in a relationship, then one should acknowledge this and seek love elsewhere.

In the lyrics below, Missy Elliot warns women of how men who spend most of their time physically objectifying other women are not worth staying in a relationship with:

Yo man he be callin me back
Cause see I'm fine and a matter of fact
(Eh he he he he)
He asked how I do dat dat
Fit my jeans over baby fat
Listen
I don't know the type of tricks he playin
But I should warn you I don't want ya man

Lil Kim said, "don't trust him, though I love him, no longer want him lookin at his cousin". The pattern is clear. If you're in a relationship with a man who is with you, but looking elsewhere, then "let him go", because he really does not love you -- he loves your body. If you want love, then do not stay with a man who is sexist. No equal, committed, respectful loving relationship will transpire with a man who behaves like that. No one male or female, who believes in love, should expect love from a person who epitomizes sex but cannot see the priceless value of love.