Shero Worship


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Excellent Post!

We do have to remember that some of the most accomplished people are not necessarily great human beings. And some people only become great with good editing, controlled lighting, or a script to work from. Along with creativity and elbow grease, I would add connections, luck, and timing. People who succeed like to think it came from their hard work alone, when in fact there are many working just as hard who don't get a break. That's not to say hard work isn't important - it's just that even when you do well, it's not all about you.

Brightest blessings in accomplishing your next 21 fabulous things. Though I think you really could count the realization in your post as one of them. Many people much older than you never get it.


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Posted by Morgaine Swann on 22 March 2005 - 1:47am
Cult of personality

Sometimes it seems we admire the person so much we fail to see the deeds. The idea that our (s)heroes can do no wrong -- it's a natural response people have. In politics, especially in conservative circles, it can become an institutionalized policy -- "Bush, right or wrong!" -- but I think you're right, any of us can fall prey to such thinking.

When we finally knock that person off the pedestal, do we disserve them? Or do we honor them for their humanity, their fallibility, their limitations as people who live lives and think thoughts shaped by their experiences, their uniqueness?

I am awed and overjoyed to wake up to such a wonderful post by a new member here ... and I say that with no pedestals. Thank you, truthinboots, for sharing this. You've put a really nice glow on my day. I look forward to more. :)

And welcome!

-media girl

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Posted by media girl on 22 March 2005 - 7:54am
You make a great point about

You make a great point about honoring people's humanity. Thanks for the welcome! I look forward to posting more here :)

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Posted by truthinboots on 24 March 2005 - 4:18pm
It came from you, not her

It is difficult when we realize that someone we greatly admire has flaws. It is even more difficult when someone who has touched us and moved us, seems to turn on us and says things that are hurtful. Here we had all this joy and good feeling and insight and because of a thoughtless remark, we feel foolish and wrong. Belittled. No good. All those good feelings, gone, or at least defaced with mental graffiti.

But I am reminded of a Zen parable.

A man is crossing a river in a small boat when another man's boat bumps against his. The man in the first boat is angry and yells at the man in the offending boat.

"Now," the Zen teacher asks me, "what if the second boat had drifted downstream without an occupant? Would the first man be as angry?"

I suppose we could yell--and be unheard--at the person who did not properly secured the second boat, but at least in my case my own anger comes from taking something, like my boat being bumped, personally.

Like being bumped by the boat, in a GOOD sense, her words come downstream and filled your heart. This was real. But the reality was from you--from what was already there in your own heart-- a seed--and it was pure and from YOU. Her words may have been water, but they awakened a seed within you that was already there. It blossomed. You thrived.

Then you learned that she, who awakened the seed in you, had her own seeds in her own heart. That does not change the seed in yours.

We all have the wonderful human tendency to be thankful to those who have touched us. I say, that is usually enough. Our task is to give a thank you and then, if we have it in us, to help awaken others, mindful we do not trample on the spouts we have touched.

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Posted by Matsu on 22 March 2005 - 10:23am